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Chris Raymond

If Only Life Had a Rewind Button

By December 12, 2012

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True story: I once witnessed a guy I worked with ask a female coworker when her baby was due.

Unfortunately, she wasn't pregnant.

To this day, I can still recall how mortified I felt as I watched her pained reaction to his well-intentioned question, and the gush of words and apologies he spewed as he attempted to retrieve his size-12 Oxford from deep down his throat.

He failed ultimately, but I learned an invaluable lesson that day: There are many things in life you should never say.

People say many things during a funeral as they search for something to say to fill the otherwise-uncomfortable silence. Unfortunately, many of those comments should also remain unexpressed because they do nothing to help those grieving. Inspired by member comments in the Death & Dying Forum about this topic, I penned an article detailing the five things you should never say at a funeral.

What other expressions don't help grievers? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below.

December 13, 2012 at 9:14 am
(1) Tony says:

I read your article on the 5 things not to say. I hope many read this to help guide them through what to say to someone that is in the throes of great sadness. Sometimes the words that are meant to help can actually deepen someone’s sadness or make them angry while they are trying to sort through a flood of emotions and answers to the question, why?

Unfortunately, as life is, most of us will find ourselves in a situation where we will be searching for the right words, this will help. Well done.

January 4, 2013 at 3:22 pm
(2) Liza says:

This excellent website truly has all the information and
facts I needed concerning this subject and didn’t know who to ask.

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